Comments on: Hey Moms, Let’s Stop the Shaming

By: Gianna Christopher

Gianna Christopher — Thu, 15 Oct 2020 20:27:44 +0000

My mom get's mom shamed about how strict she is with me but it called love she's not that strict and she lets me watch ninjago so many times on reapet it's an amzing movie . Thaks for inspiring me and my mom

By: RaeAnn LaBounty

RaeAnn LaBounty — Thu, 14 Feb 2019 22:13:28 +0000

As a mother, reading this has truly given me light at a dark time. I am so grateful that so many mothers get to talk with each other about these things and support each other. It really is tough. But, with love and support, we got This! Thank you, Gen. For bringing this to attention!

By: Natasha Chambers-McGilton

Natasha Chambers-McGilton — Wed, 18 Jul 2018 00:13:07 +0000

Hell yeah! Perfect words everyone who has ever been mom shamed or been the guilty one shaming a mom trying her best! I read a quote somewhere that went something like ” show me a perfect mother and I’ll show you a unicorn dancing around a leprechaun at the end of a rainbow with a pot of gold and a fairy on his shoulder sprinkling glitter everywhere”. Way to go Mama!

By: Don Gillespie

Don Gillespie — Fri, 29 Jun 2018 21:49:39 +0000

Hi Gen,
Looks like not too many men are commenting here so I’m happy to provide a guy’s point of view. We were shocked at how many parents couldn’t wait to let us know, some in subtle ways and some not so subtle, that our baby wasn’t as smart, fast, strong, dleeping as well, or just all-around as incredible, as theirs, that we were lacking in this, wrong in that, that we should do what they did even if it sounded stupid…it took us by surprise until we realized that there are a lot of people out there who just want to elevate their own self image at the expense of yours. I found women to be especially brutal about breastfeeding and cesarian sections. I’m happy for all the women who wanted natural childbirth nd had it, and who wanted to breastfeed and had an easy time. But having a c-section or epidurals doesn’t make you any less a woman and doesn’t make you somehow defective (yes some people actually say this stuff). many women do not just roll out of bed knowing how to get the proper latch for breastfeeding or know what to do when their milk arrival is delayed a bit, and these struggles don’t make you any less a woman either. We all make our judgements about the parenting of others (God knows I sure do) but I keep those judgements to myself, which is where they belong. We like our parenting style but that doesn’t mean it’s the way everyone should do it. So when we meet people expecting their first baby we give the one single piece of advice (if they want it): Listen only to your baby and trust your instincts. 9 times out of 10 they will lead you the right way if you trust them. For the times you still have a problem, seek out advice from someone who’s been through it who you really trust. And you’ll be fine. Nice blog.
Don

By: Liz Brown

Liz Brown — Thu, 14 Jun 2018 23:07:05 +0000

I so agree with your words in this article and think you hit the nail on the head. We are all to quick to judge others when we don’t see the whole picture, let’s say. When you are doing your best and raising, healthy, happy, kind, caring children it is awesome. Mothers and others should be ashamed of shaming others. If they are not your children, you do not have the right to tell their parents how to raise them. Things have changed so much since I was a mother with a daughter and I think it is harder for the parents and the kids today. As my grandmother use to tell me, if you can’t say something nice or help someone, don’t say or do anything. Everyone needs encouragement and a feeling of selfworth. We should all encourage each other, be kind to each other, and help each other that we may be better ourselves.

By: Devon Ayres

Devon Ayres — Fri, 08 Jun 2018 03:36:29 +0000

Thank you so much for sharing! My husband and I have been struggling with expanding our family and have decided on adoption. You would not believe the comments and we don’t even have a child yet! Someone actually tried to shame me because I wasn’t planning on breast feeding an adopted baby! Thank you for advocating for all moms!

By: Veronica McGee

Veronica McGee — Wed, 30 May 2018 16:22:51 +0000

Very good read. I became a first-time mom in April when my husband and I were blessed with a newborn baby to adopt. I’m the type of person that immediately calls someone out if I feel they’re judgy or being passive aggressive. What I wasn’t prepared for is those that feel entitled to talk to me, interrupt me, and provide unsolicited advice that I don’t want. Having a baby with me does not give friends or strangers they right to provide me with unwanted attention. I realize it’s joyous to have a baby but this journey was long, emotional, and the hardest thing I’ve ever done. Frankly, sometimes I just don’t want to talk or engage and I certainly don’t want to hear judgement.

By: B Meiser

B Meiser — Wed, 30 May 2018 04:09:05 +0000

I love this post! Thank you so much for spreading the word of positivity and support. It took me a long time to trust my instincts insead of listening to what others told me was right for my son. Once I realized I was capable and that my insticts were spot on, I was able to parent without guilt or shame. Life is hard enough without criticizing one another, so why do it?

By: Charlotte Paul

Charlotte Paul — Tue, 29 May 2018 15:24:36 +0000

I am an extremely non-judgemental person and always wish that others would be so, too. Unfortunately I had more than my share considering my parenting skills! I may be wrong sometimes (hey, I’m human! And everyone is a firsttimer parent as each kid is different or the circumstances are) but I definitely am a very dedicated mother and such comments ae hurtful and only fuelled my insecurities! So thanks thanks thanks for pouting this out and inspiring us to be a better person!

By: Melanie

Melanie — Sat, 26 May 2018 20:49:59 +0000

You are so right! The mom shaming has to stop. As long as it’s not emotionally or physically abusive, how moms AND dads raise their children, is no one’s business but their own. So you painted your son’s fingernails. Big whoop! I don’t think that will “emasculate” him in the least. You and your children look healthy and happy, so you must be doing something right. I know it’s hard, I’ve been there, but ignore the people that only have something negative to say. Misery lives company, right?