Comments on: Gen’s May Lit List: Let’s Talk About Sex

By: Soph

Soph — Wed, 16 May 2018 14:33:27 +0000

Personnally, I’ve read some of those titles and they are a great references. But if I may, we rarely discuss the matters of mental health and the impacts on a couple’s sexuality or even the dynamic at home. It’s extremely hard to deal with depression, anxiety or OCD and still enjoy the most of our sexuality, alone or with a partner…
I’d like to thank you for your work. Thanks for sharing. Sharing is the key to compassion. xx

By: Kim

Kim — Tue, 15 May 2018 05:24:59 +0000

I am so excited for this conversation to continue. After seeing this video, I immediately shared it with my best friend. We realized how much in this area we share, being both in our 40”s raised children, having been raised by generations of body conscious women, both overweight … the most interesting thing we realized is our view of our body actually had little to do with how we look physically. We realized the when we were young and in our hot twenties wearing our bikinis, we still hated our bodies. That is when we realized that this conversation you are beginning with us your listeners is a life altering conversation. We both look forward to more. Thank you for your openess and honesty.

By: Arie

Arie — Tue, 15 May 2018 00:28:17 +0000

I have to say the first book is really tame. Which is great if you’re a virgin or inexperienced. If you really want to get things going in the sack…I rec “How to Tickle His Pickle” by Sadie Allison. You have to make things fun. Shake it up. Sex isn’t just about the ladies.

By: Mindy

Mindy — Tue, 15 May 2018 00:13:48 +0000

I have owned and read Good girl’s guide to bad girl sex. It’s not a bad read, just a little tame. If you want wilder sex, then you are going to have to look elsewhere.

By: Jennifer Pike

Jennifer Pike — Mon, 14 May 2018 16:53:21 +0000

Hey Gen!

I find that, even after knowing my husband since high school, together since 2009, and married for 4 years this year, I still feel self-conscious in the bedroom. It’s something that I hate – a lot – feeling self-conscious with him. Over time, I’ve become convinced that a lot of it stems from negative body image. He can tell me that he thinks I’m pretty and that he thinks I’m just perfect til he’s blue in the face, but I still have a hard time believing it. The strangest part, I think, is that I wasn’t as much this way when we started dating. Call it the euphoria of falling in love with someone new maybe, but I feel like I’m taking steps backward, not forward.

Jen

By: Jaci

Jaci — Mon, 14 May 2018 06:05:46 +0000

As a mom of 2 and wife of a disabled military veteran, let me just say, I’m so darn glad you found some good lit that covers a bit of that self-love topic. Sex has changed a good bit after being with my husband for over 12 years, and after only 5 of those years, he became disabled. I’m very much looking forward to reading these just to feel empowered again and hopefully to get in touch with myself so I can possibly find new and exciting ways to bring sexy back to the bedroom again, in new and creative, yet intimate and POSSIBLE ways. Thanks for the list Gen!

By: Diana

Diana — Mon, 14 May 2018 04:16:24 +0000

Thank you so much for posting this! After 13 years of marriage and 3 kids I thought it was just me being self conscious and getting older. I think I’m going to invest in some books… and a good door lock.

By: Astrid

Astrid — Sun, 13 May 2018 16:07:11 +0000

I would suggest ‘The Beauty Myth’ by Naomi Wolf. It’s not specifically about sexuality but it explores how unrealistic standards for physical perfection and “beauty” are used against women. When talking about body positivity and creating a healthy relationship, I think this is one of the classics.

And being a historian, I would also suggest reading books about the origins and history of human sexuality. It could be ‘The Origins of Sex: A History of the First Sexual Revolution’ by Faramerz Dabhoiwala or ‘Sex and Punishment. 4000 Years of Judging Desire’ by Erik Berkowitz.

By: Jesika Matana

Jesika Matana — Sat, 12 May 2018 21:26:38 +0000

Hi Gen,

I think it’s amazing that you speak so honest about this topic! And for me it was really helpful to watch your latest video! I’m definitely gonna read some of the books above…

Thank you,
Greats from Belgium

By: Angela M

Angela M — Sat, 12 May 2018 18:36:05 +0000

Hi, Gen. I can totally relate to the body image part. I have no problem talking about sex, body parts and things off that nature. But I have terrible body image. I have scoliosis and spinal stenosis. The scoliosis b4 my back surgery was 98 degrees and my spine was crushing my lungs. After surgery they got me to 48 degrees. Not really great but better. So if you look at me you can see the disfigurement. After my spinal stenosis surgery, they went back in and fused the rest of my spine to my tail bone, my neck looks crooked. Because my hips can’t compensate for the curves. I hate my body. I’m deformed and have scars almost everywherebbon my torso and neck. I also I the flattest ass around. So bc of all that my sexual positions are limited and often in pain or depressed, or both. I also have major depression bc of it. None of my dreams came true and my life sucks. With all of that said I would like to know why these things happen. What does my brain look like with the depression and what other problems are connected with scoliosis. Maybe not exactly what you’re talking about, but the body image does. I have body deformia, not sure if spelling is right.