Comments on: Motherhood Unfiltered: A Q&A with Dr. Alexandra Sacks

By: Donna Brown

Donna Brown — Tue, 20 Aug 2019 11:23:34 +0000

As an older mom at the time (36) my son was my everything, as a nurse mom I thought I knew it all…Ha! But we all survived me and now he is an independent 26 year old starting a life with a wonderful young lady, I had to have done something right….just saying because none of them come with owners manuals…you are a wonderful mom..and you have a sweetheart for a hubby. ..

By: Jax

Jax — Thu, 15 Aug 2019 17:45:12 +0000

I really love this. I silently read your blog often and follow you on instagram, but this post makes me want to comment. As a mother of two young children, I can relate. There is a struggle between saying goodbye to your past life and embracing your new one all while trying to remain the same person. It’s hard to have your whole world change and still feel like the same person. As a mother and a wife we lose a lot of ourselves – our bodies, our time, our thoughts, our goals, and even our last names. While it’s all something I would never change, it’s hard to grasp. I love the part where it says that we artifiically tell our friends how amazing life is. Life is amazing, we just don’t feel like it sometimes. Thanks for sharing and helping us realize we aren’t alone!!

By: Lynn

Lynn — Sun, 11 Aug 2019 03:25:30 +0000

This is awesome! Thanks for the recommendation. One of my nieces just had her first child in May and I think this will make a great gift for her. 🙂

By: Belinda Neal

Belinda Neal — Sat, 10 Aug 2019 14:44:40 +0000

I can relate to this often as I beat myself up about it a lot knowing that I feel I am letting myself down thinking that I cannot cope. I am disabled and don’t have children and look after my elderly father. I cannot stand for long periods of time because I have sciatica and a slipped disc in my back. So if you ladies have children I commend you as its so damned hard on your own let alone having kids to care for on top. Its interesting to read points from other peoples perspectives.

By: Jenny

Jenny — Sat, 10 Aug 2019 05:03:15 +0000

Thank you for sharing your thoughts on motherhood. One thing that pops into my mind: If you don’t mind sharing sleep or exercise, it could be a good way to reconnect.

By: Suganti

Suganti — Fri, 09 Aug 2019 15:07:02 +0000

Hey Gen, thanks for this post! I have tried to type my comment twice now and it seems like it will be post of its own. So I am trying to keep it as short as I can. I have recently started thinking about the ‘old me’ and connecting with my before motherhood took every waking second of my time. I have no complaints whatsoever though. Love every second of it. But as they get older and in school and it’s almost a decade since I did anything ‘before’ it’s kinda overwhelming for me not know where to start. Because my interests changed during my motherhood that works around my kids. But I am trying, baby steps 🙂 As far as parenting goes, I stopped comparing myself with others or my moms’ really early of my firstborn. Our pediatrician used to say that as long as you babies are healthy and no distress, continue whatever you do. And I find that comforting. Since I am solely on my own. It has definitely been a learning curve and I still do as they grow older.

By: Lillian E. M. Garza

Lillian E. M. Garza — Fri, 09 Aug 2019 13:26:19 +0000

Thank you so much for sharing this with everyone, Gen. I have recently been struggling with this very issue, and my resulting frustrations convinced me that I'm a bad mom. This post helped so much. I love my girls, and I love my husband, now it's time to remember what it feels like to love and take care of my self as well. I will definitely be looking into the work of Dr. Sacks. Thank you. You truly are an inspiration, and I aspire to be as candid, supportive, and caring as you.

By: Elena

Elena — Fri, 09 Aug 2019 03:39:03 +0000

Love this post! It speaks to me very deeply.

By: Adi

Adi — Fri, 09 Aug 2019 03:19:07 +0000

Thank you for this, Gen. Any additional exposure to this subject is extremely important. I agree with the comment above me with respect to the fact that we should all honor and accept each other’s choices, be more sympathetic and most importantly, talk about the difficulties of motherhood at least as often as we talk about the joys of it, if not more. Ben is 3.5 and I was sure I was meant to be a mom and that I could handle all of the challenges. Boy, did I get a huge slap on the face when he was born... It should be ok to talk about everything without being judged or criticized - whether you choose not to become a mom, whether you become a mom and wish you could take that back, whether you want another child or not - these are all subjects that are almost always frowned upon and dismissed if not taboo to talk about. But they’re so important!! The validation and understanding can be life changing even. Just because you don’t want to be a mom doesn’t make you less of a whole person. Just because you miss your old life and sometimes wonder what it would have been like if you hadn’t had kids doesn’t make you a bad mom. Just because you’re content with one child doesn’t make you selfish or the worst mom ever. I wish more people would realize that. I think talking about these issues like this blog is a great start. So thank you again And just to be perfectly clear - I adore my son. And I wouldn’t want to live in a world where he doesn’t exist, because now I know what it’s like to have him in it. I feel like if we as moms learned how to not apologize for our choices and feelings in addition to having a more accepting environment - that would make us feel more accepting and forgiving towards ourselves. And consequently, possibly reduce our guilt as well...

By: Kassidi

Kassidi — Fri, 09 Aug 2019 03:13:10 +0000

This literally made me take a deep breath and settle into my bed a little easier. What a refreshing conversation. You always know what to ask, Gen! Thank you for bringing us moms a little closer together.